So I'm always asked, " TK, how are you always able to keep a pretty chilled attitude towards life?" Well first, I read, pray and meditate a lot. And when I'm not doing those things I trying to create something cool daily like an illustration or t-shirt design or some cool merch idea I may have had in the middle of the night. But the last and most important thing is that I try to seek wisdom constantly and try to stay away from negative people that are well...let's just say self- loathing. On a few occasions, I will reach out to a small group of people in what I'd like to call my "3 Circle Rule".
This is something I heavily practiced in my relationships and interactions with people and If you truly know me It holds a lot of weight in my life. There are mainly only 3 types of people I try to normally keep around me that I put in 3 categories or circles of my life because I don't believe in mutual friends or additional stress.
And with that said you're either my friend, my teammate (I try to still play flag football when I can or a business partner) or you're neither. And there's nothing wrong with just being my associate because you'll probably have more face time and more common ground with me than someone who isn't my friend at all or I just don't like as a person. Because if I don't like you personally I'm not gonna act like I do and force myself to hang around you just b/c of a mutual friendship.
So here goes my 3 golden circles of success:
1st circle: Personal Accountability
People who just help me be a better person in general or hold me accountable for my actions.
This circle is important because if I'm wrong in a situation then I'm wrong. I hate to admit that but I want to make sure that I limit or prevent that behavior from happening in the future. I can normally run a situation by this person while trying to keep to the facts of the interaction and if they say "Yeah TK you were wrong!" then I'm big enough (or so I'd like to believe) and I will go back and apologize for my actions in the situation. And these same people will also make sure that I'm living my best life. They check on me from time to time (via phone call, text, inbox or over drinks), making sure I'm not working too hard despite my personal goals and always help me to see the big picture of life. They generally just want the best for me and life is all about doing better the moment you know better.
2nd circle: Spiritual Accountability
People who help me to be spiritually accountable. Rather I counsel them or they give me counsel.
This circle is very important because we have a Paul and Timothy relationship (like from the bible) and those roles change and reverse depending on the nature of the conversation and throughout the conversation. I'm a strong believer in self-awareness, biblical teaching, and stoicism (and that will be another topic of discussion later), but sometimes we need the wisdom from others to be enlightened. And whether you believe in God or some other higher power you sometimes have to channel something bigger than yourself to get thru life and some friends can remind you of that and the spiritual power that can push you to higher places during good and bad times.
3rd circle: Financial Accountability
People who help me to be financially accountable. These people help me make better financial and business decisions.
This circle is important b/c most people are financially illiterate and not aware of it. And life is hard enough without additional financial setbacks and stresses. These people may be living the life that you've always wanted or maybe their really good with their money and have built strong foundations for themselves or maybe they can recommend the best resources based on their own failures and successes in business. Either way, having people to discuss financial issues or concerns are very important and is really overlooked since we aren't normally taught personal finance and entrepreneurship at an early age.
As these circles overlap I always have a core group of people to rely on for anything. If people don't fall into one or more of these circles. Then my time for them is only limited to prayer and a smile. I might even buy you a beer at the bar b/c I'm not an A-hole and I'd like to consider myself a generous person to all, but after the last sip, the conversation and interaction are pretty much over.
Also, another reason these circles are important in my keys to success is that it keeps me on my A-game so that I can make sure that I'm always learning and positioned to share that same type of energy, knowledge, and value to other people's lives as well. I try my best to share and present the facts from my studying and not so much from my own opinion when sharing in these circles of trust so that people can also make wiser decisions for themselves.
Well, that's it...My 3 Circle Rule. This helps keep my life simple b/c I have enough issues to deal with besides dealing with flaky, unreliable and/or unmotivated people. So if you ever find yourself questioning your personal growth, life or just your happiness try to implement "The 3 Circle Rule" into your life to test against your family, personal and work/business relationships. Hopefully, it can bring some form of peace to your life with the more important people in your life. Now I'm not claiming that my way is the best way but have I ever told you wrong. 👊😂
Oh yeah....P.S. Don't tell people which circle that they fall into either as you sort your relationships out. This is more of personal choice myself b/c from my experiences insecure people aren't really ready to know how you view them. They just want to know that you value them by their own standards. Most times they are shocked or disappointed that you don't view them in a certain light. So when asked and if that person can't even take the fact that you couldn't tell them then they don't deserve to be in any of your circles of success anyway....get it...good.
Blessings and I wish you must success my friends!!!
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